Being able to understand and make a difference

It was the day that i had some "teachers compass ceremony" held at nanyang poly because NIE is being used for the YOG.
In case those who don't know, i am going to go into NIE which is part of NTU,for 4 years, taking a bond for 4 years because it is part of the agreement of scholarship and am going to take Chemistry and Math as my subjects. Its a degree but in education.
So basically, the ceremony ended and people were just heading out.
I met this guy who also wanted to join the "breakdance" cca in NTU and so we talked and so i made a new friend!
We went home in a group with people that i know since the past and people that i just made friends with on that day.

Basically melissa and i was heading towards jurong east and we are at yio chu kang.
There are 2 routes, the red line to jurong or changing mrts from the red line to the green line from the orchard side.
Looking at the number of stops, i was convinced that one straight red line is confirm going to be so much faster than changing mrts and going one big round.
But joel convinced melissa and i to take the latter because even though it looks like a big round, its faster.
I still wasn't convinced..
I asked him, " are you sure its faster?"
He said, "confirm faster, it takes 20 minute to go from yio chu kang to city hall and 20 minute from city hall to jurong. but it takes 45 to 50 minutes to take the red line to jurong."
I was still doubting despite the statistics.
Asking him again, "how you know?"
He said, "last time i always take the trains from yio chu kang area because my gf stays there."

Why am i telling you this normal boring convo that i had?
Because it reminded me of something.
That is the point of this post.
He is able to tell me the numbers so clearly because he used his experiences.
Experiences that everyone go through, including you, can mean alot alot in future..you will never know.
I believe that no one is able to understand another if that person is not able to stand in the other person's shoes and if the person has not experienced anything like it before.
How can you understand the feeling of sadness if one hasn't experienced it?
Or depression, heart brokeness.etc.
Talking about this, i was reminded of one of my close friend, joseph, while talking to me about his past struggles..there was one sentence that he said, "you will never understand, no one will ever understand the struggles that i had and the feeling of wanting to suicide even if i tell them."

There was once i asked joshua ng for help regarding a friend of mine who has gone through heart brokeness because of guy girl relationship.
I tried telling him the advices that i am going to tell her.
Trying very hard to feel what she feels and what it means to be heart broken is very difficult.
The only thing that josh said was, "do you even understand what it means to be heart broken? You have not gone through being heart broken before, how will you understand the pain?"

There was another incident that i was talking to my "ah gong", zhong han! sorry..he is my ah gong because he looks very old. But he is very nice=) not very old, and is my church friend.
I was at redhill market having lunch with him, talking to him about the problems that i face spiritually.
He said something after everything that he adviced me and we talked about.
He said, " i can advice you now because i have gone through it myself and found a solution, thats why i can give you advices as to what to do."

Every experience, be it big or small, bad or good, people learn, grow and understand causing them to be able to be put to good use in future.
It may be used as encouragements, advices for decisions made or even to save a life!
No one knows. but we just got to place everything in the hands of God, trusting that He will use it.

Even God Himself sent Jesus down to become a human being..
for what?
So that he can experience the pain that you and i go through,
The suffering, the happiness, the joy, the struggles, temptations, bonds, feelings..etc
He experienced being a human when he did not even have to do it.
For?
So that He can relate to both you and i
so that He can understand us and have a relationship with us..not just a God who rules and reigns!
But a God who is also a friend and listens.
This closeness that He wants to achieve with us, is what no other Gods will give.
His desire is to be your closest friend.
Will you let him be?
When you think that no one understands?
Think again=)

God loves you.